Bondage dog?

We had a dog show up on our patio yesterday. Gabriel identified it as our neighbors dog, and our neighbors were not home. It was a little Chihuahua and it was really cute. After keeping it on our patio, we realized he was getting a little chilly so we let him inside and gave him some food.

Yes, that is a bondage cuff around his neck. We needed to take him outside, and didn't have a leash. I just happened to have bondage cuff with tethers, so it worked out perfectly. I know, only ME right?? It worked pretty good though.

He was very sweet. Quiet, not to hyper but was a little playful at times. Mostly he just stayed close to me- which is strange considering that I'm not really a dog person.

I admit that he grew on me pretty quickly, and now I kinda want one. We've been talking about getting a dog. Mike wants one, but I want to make sure that we get one that I could/ would take care of in the event that he can't take it with him when he moves out. He thinks a dog would be good for his depression. Part of me thinks he might be right, but the other part of me doesn't want another mouth to feed.

So now I'm looking at Petfinder.com and weighing the pros and cons of getting a little dog. I don't want a yappy dog, or a dog that is too hyper. The kids get so riled up, I wonder if even a dog with a good temperament will get all out of control around my boys.

Like I have said, I'm not really an animal person. They are a big commitment, and often an expensive one. I never want to be in the position where I can't afford to care for it, if it get sick. I know I made a joke once about opting to put an animal down. I never WANT to have to make that decision, I am just aware that it's out there.

So I'm just not sure.

He sure was a cute dog though and I did love the attention.

25 things

I know I know... I've done these a few times, but my cousin tagged me and I just never say no to her cause she never asks for anything. I'm gonna do it here on my blog and not Facebook cause I need something to post here anyway and I'm not gonna tag anyone cause if I tagged you, you probably did it already. So here's my 25 things that maybe you did or did not know about me.

1. I cry at movies. A lot. I cried watching Bolt, and today I cried at the end of Rocky II. I cry more over movies and TV shows than I do about real life.

2. When I do cry about real life, I find it really hard to stop and I will cry on and off all day.

3. I still cry about my husband, more often than I care to admit, but he doesn't (and won't) know about it.

4. I starting blogging three years and 4 months ago. The blog was dedicated mostly to my journey in Al-Anon.

5. I have written more than 1500 blog posts between all the blogs I write and write for and there are people who have read every word I've ever written- or at least come very close to it.

6. To my knowledge, my husband has never read anything that I've written nor has he taken an interest in doing so. Probably a good thing because I tend to be seen quite often in various stages of undressed.



7. I was a dancer when I was younger. I've never loved any hobby or pastime more than when I was a dancer- but I stopped after highschool and haven't taken a class or performed since.

8. ...except for my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary.

9. My roots are grounded in my family. They are the hardest ones to turn to when I need them, but I know that they are always there. Always.

(this is my most favorite picture in the entire world)

10. While I am not making enough money to adequately support my family, 95% of the time, I LOVE my job and I LOVE the people that I work with. I finally feel like I'm doing something that matters.


11. I am trusting and forgiving to a fault. If you tell me you're sorry, I will believe you. Even if I should never forgive you, I will- I'm just that way.

12. ...unless you are now or were ever my husband.

13. I didn't want kids when I was a teenager. It wasn't until I dated someone who told me he couldn't have and didn't WANT kids that I even considered it.

14. A boss I had said something to me that quite often helps me make hard decisions. He said, "When you are an old woman and you look back on your life, what do you want to see?"

15. I have had sex with four of my supervisors. (Person from #14 was NOT one of them)

16. How I met my first husband: I gave him a job. Scheduled him to work with me all the time and hit on him the first chance I got. I married him later...


17. The weirdest toy I ever got to review was a big round egg shaped vibe that had these plastic nubby things on it that were kinda pokey. I looks like a blowfish and I was tempted to put eyes on it and throw it in a tank of water.

seriously right???

18. There is rarely an important decision I make in which I don't first consult my best friend Ed, it's been like that since I was about 19.

19. Oh my god, really.... twenty five????

20. I have not decided if I want to go to the 20 year high school reunion.

21. I have realized that I sometimes talk about things in MY world that don't translate the same in YOUR world. For example- me talking about dildo's is about as normal as talking about kitchen appliances or lampshades. I forget that for most people, sex is something they just don't talk about.



22. I have also realized that by letting people know that I am totally open in talking about it, people will open up to me and often feel good about admitting things they think are weird or crazy. Trust me, nothing shocks me.

23. I have a girl friend who I let tie me up with ropes, cause she needs the practice.



(that is a chest harness and a spreader bar)

24. It's 12:30, one more gratuitous picture of me and I'm going to bed.



25. Goodnight.

Cat on the table

Last night, a kitty came to our back door.  She (I am assuming) was lost.  A long haired tabby that was so beautiful.  Mike and I pet her for a long time on the patio.  She came to our back door so I figured she wandered out and didn't know where she was in the back of the complex.  We moved her to our front patio and she eventually wandered off.  I really did want to let her in the house and keep her forever cause she was so pretty and sweet- but clearly she belonged to someone.  

I want a cat. 

A few weeks ago I told the Mike I wanted to put a cat on the discussion table.  It became kind of a snarky conversation, but in the end, the cat is on the table.  Maybe after the new year.  I know that if we get a kitty, we need two.  I've had cats before.  And kittens need to come in pairs otherwise they make you insane.  An older cat can be alone.  I also want a declawed kitty.  No, I don't want one that I need to declaw, cause I do think it's cruel.  However, if I rescue one, I think I'd PREFER one that is already declawed.  With the kids, and the furniture- it's just better that way.  

I like long medium haired cats, and I like tabbies. Well, I LOVE long haired cats, but I just can't deal with all the cat hair everywhere.  It's bad enough with short or medium.  

Admittedly, I'm resistant to have another pet.  When we had to get rid of our last two, it broke my heart.  I had Mike take them to a shelter and hoped they would get adopted.  Alex still doesn't know the truth, we told him they ran away together.  Financially, it's tough to have a pet when they get sick and you have to balance a small checking account between feeding the kids and taking the cat to the vet.  I vowed I would never have another pet.  

However lately I've been thinking about it- looking at pet adoption websites and demanding that it become a family discussion.  Last night, that pretty girl on my patio... sigh, I want one.